Dear Ethicist
This began as a letter to the weekly New York Times column Letter to the Ethicist . I subscribe to The Ethicist and receive it in my email. Sometimes I read it, sometimes I don't. When I came upon last week's letter, I read the letter, but not the reply. Sometimes it's like that, especially with things in my email. For approximately the past two weeks, off and on, I had been too much in my head about my own Ethicist question, although I wasn't yet thinking of it that way. When I read the current Letter to the Ethicist , I began to think that the Ethicist was exactly what I needed. I scrolled to the bottom to the Contact the Ethicist and clicked on the link. A blank page came up and I began to write. When I finished, I hit the send button. This is my letter. It contains four individuals as follows: 1. I am a character in my own ethical dilemma. 2. The main character, my friend Helen (not her rea...